MOTIVATIONAL: Still, The Best Things in Life are Free (Almost)

It would have been nice if you had all the money in this world.  You could escape the oppressive heat in the Philippines and vacation in Dublin.  Or Alaska.  How wonderful could that be!

You could replace your phone every 6 months every time there is a new version of Samsung Galaxy or Iphone.  Imagine that.  Or have at least 2 of the latest tablets in the market.  Maybe one Ipad Mini and one Kindle.  For those who love to read.  Or one Ipad 2 and one Samsung Tablet for those who love to play online games.  That would really be cool!

You could eat all the sumptuous food you have always wanted to try but could not afford.  How about that eat-all-you can buffet restaurant in that hotel that serves all the mouth-watering sense-overloading food from all the regions of this earth.  Wow, just imagine that.  What restaurant have you always wanted to go to but can’t?  And now, with lots of money, you can!  Maybe try another one for dinner next Sunday.  And another one for dinner Sunday after that.  And try another. . .  Now, you may need to spend money on gym memberships and the services of a good fitness instructor.  That’s not a problem.  You have money.

You don’t even need to work.  My God!  Isn’t wonderful?! You don’t need to endure your control-freak  boss.  No pesky client calls.  You don’t need to pretend you like your office mates.  All day, you can just play golf.  Or relax on a hammock in a paradise beach.

That’s the life!  You say.

How wonderful to dream.  But today, I woke up and realized I will never have all the money in this world.  And even if I will have (which is really very unlikely), imagine how purposeless and shallow that kind of life would be.   It would be nice to take a breather once in a while.  To go to a nice place once in a while.  Splurge on a new phone or tablet every 2 years.  Not bad.

But imagine, having all the money and having all the things and all the sense experiences that money can buy, every day of your life.  No work.  Just laze around and load your senses with “the good life” until you die.   I don’t know about you but to me, that would not equate, not even get close, to the meaning of a happy life or at least a bearable life.

Since this post is getting long, I’ll make my point and just insert the title here: The best things in life are still free (almost).  Things like the following:

  • A good conversation with a good friend
  • A solitary walk with nature
  • Time to laugh and play with children
  • Working in a job that you are passionate about
  • Doing something that makes you feel that you are making a difference in others’ lives
  • Waking up every day excited and grateful

 

Cheers to the real “good life”!  :-)

 

 

MOVIES: Before Sunrise

There is this one quote I really love from this movie and I remembered it while I was talking to a good friend this weekend.  The quote reads: “You have to resign yourself to the awkwardness of life.  Only if you find peace within yourself you’ll find true connection with others.”  Aside from how Ethan Hawke looked, this quote I think is what makes this movie very memorable for me; it’s one of my all-time favorites.

Jesse (Ethan Hawke) and Celine (Julie Delpy) met on a train in Europe.  It was not a typical meeting of strangers; it was an  instantaneous connection.  Jesse and Celine explored the beautiful city of Vienna for one night while having interesting conversations about all sorts of things from their mundane lives, to their ideas on long-term relationships, to their hopes and dreams, to their beliefs, to their emotional attraction to each other.  In one of these conversations, Celine told Jesse that if there’s any kind of magic in this world, it must be in the attempt of understanding someone sharing something.

I love to watch Jesse and Celine  talk and listen to each other.  They let each other talk for as long as each needs to.  Nobody cuts what one is saying.  While one is talking, you’ll see the other one is not busy judging the other or thinking about what to say next.  You’ll see the spontaneity and candidness  in the reactions.  You see them really connecting, really looking into each others’ eyes and trying to absorb what each is saying and meaning.

I love these kinds of conversations.  These are the kinds of conversations that  fill you up to the brim and make you feel inspired.  I remember a  friend of mine once said this kind conversation is like the work of two distinct souls trying to intertwine through words.  Soulspeak.   When you lose yourself in the sharing yet you feel you are more yourself than in any other ordinary time.   Before Sunrise beautifully captures this magical moment.  I am in love all over again!

 

MOVIES: Once (Musical) – How often do you find the right person?

Now don’t let your heart start pumping when you hear the word “musical” if you haven’t watched Once yet. Everything about this indie film goes against what we understand as a musical. There are no testosterone-filled bodies dancing here. No Hollywood stars in flashy costumes lip-syncing to recorded music. No wonderfully choreographed big productions either. Think of Moulin Rouge or Chicago or West Side Story and strip them bare naked. What remains are touching sincerity and beautiful music.

The movie stars real-life musicians Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova and the scenes are shot with cameras far from the actors giving the movie a feel of authenticity. It feels as if we are watching a couple having a lovers’ quarrel and the couple don’t know that we are watching them so they don’t hold back emotions or words. All songs in Once are sung and accompanied live by Hansard and/or Irglova except for that scene when the character of Irglova went out to buy batteries for her CD player and she sort of sings to herself while a recorded instrumental music accompanies her song.

The songs, oh the songs. If you have just been out of a relationship or are deeply in love with someone you can’t have, I suggest you don’t watch this movie. At least, not anytime soon. The songs will tug at your heart and pull your soul down that lonely place from which poets fetch their lonely words. Even if you mute the volume so as not to hear the songs, you won’t escape raw emotions when you watch Hansard sing (even if mute). Hansard sings as if every word that goes out of his mouth is a baby going out of a mother’s womb. It’s not a nice image but you’ll understand when you watch Hansard. There’s so much passion and sincerity you want to hug him every time he sings.

The story doesn’t confuse us with sub-plots and hard-to-remember characters. Basically, it’s the story of a boy who meets a girl. Boy fell in love. Girl liked him back. Boy got inspired and suddenly decided to push his life forward. Girl puts her life on the right track too. And then, I’ll hang it here, no spoiler.

So, as the movie’s tagline says, how often do you find the right person? Once. The person may leave or stay but meeting that person is not coincidental. You meet because the meeting, like the meeting of the cue ball and the colored ball on a billiard table, strikes your life and changes its direction. This is how inspiring this movie is, it makes me want to write about coincidences and life directions.

Anyway, I leave you with the song from this movie. The title of the song is “Falling Slowly“. In my opinion, it has one of the most beautiful words in any song. I hope you watch the movie more than once in your lifetime and be inspired. Be inspired.

BOOKS: The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery – Read PDF Here

If ever you will get three solid hours of solitude — nothing and no one is waiting for you; no chance of anything or anyone distracting you; you’re in a relaxed and open mental state —  I suggest that you read this book, The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery.  And if you won’t get that opportunity due to busy lifestyle, I suggest you make time to read parts of it while you’re taking a dump.  One chapter every time you do number two.  That’s not so taxing on your time.

And even if it did cut out a chunk of your time, it is a chunk not wasted, pun unintended.

The Little Prince  is a book for grown-ups who have become lost in the grown-up world; those who think they are concerned with matters of great consequences but actually, they are not.  It is a book for people whose life compass needs a little bit of re-calibrating.  Who among us doesn’t need life re-calibration one time or another?

The book looks and reads  like a children’s book and kids would surely love it.  But grown-ups who would read it with open and reflective mind would love it even more.  It doesn’t shove into you truths like what many preachers of exclusive religions do.  Instead, it gently invites you to suspend what you think is important and look at the world with the clear-sighted eyes of a child.

In the part of the book after the Little Prince has successfully befriended the fox, he went back to the garden and told this to the roses:

“You are not at all like my rose,” he said. “As yet you are nothing. No one has tamed you, and you have tamed no one. You are like my fox when I first knew him. He was only a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But I have made him my friend, and now he is unique in all the world.” And the roses were very much embarrassed.

 

“You are beautiful, but you are empty,” he went on. “One could not die for you. To be sure, an ordinary passerby would think that my rose looked just like you– the rose that belongs to me. But in herself alone she is more important than all the hundreds of you other roses: because it is she that I have watered; because it is she that I have put under the glass globe; because it is she that I have sheltered behind the screen; because it is for her that I have killed the caterpillars (except the two or three that we saved to become butterflies); because it is she that I have listened to, when she grumbled, or boasted, or even sometimes when she said nothing. Because she is my rose.”

Have you ever loved a book so much you want to quote all of it, you want to talk about it over and over again to anyone who cares to listen, you want to give copies of it to everyone if only you had the money?  That is how I love this book.  I share this love to you with hope you find the time to read the book.  You know, doing number two could be much more exciting, I’m sure of it.  :-)

Click The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery to read the rest of the book in its PDF version.  (Will you really bring your laptop to the toilet?)

 

 

 

MUSIC: Suspend Me — Featuring the Poetry of Ngwatilo Mawiyoo

 

Here’s one recording I’m sure you’ll love.  The title of the song is “Suspend Me” sung by Wambura Mitaru, a U.S. music scholar from Kenya.   The title of the featured poem is “The End of a Love Affair” by Kenyan poet Ngwatilo Mawiyoo. Spoken vocal of the recording was done by the poet herself.

Now, I don’t really know how to write about music.  All I know is that I love what I feel when I listen to this recording.  It feels like when you’re a little bit tipsy from drinking two bottles of delicious  ice cold beer that you really enjoyed you feel excited and giddy because you know you can now smile and be sad at the same time and not worry about what others will think.  That’s how this recording makes me feel.  Sorry, I really need to learn how to write about music now.

I hope you enjoy the recording though! :-)

 

 

The End of a Love Affair
by Ngwatilo Mawiyoo

When you are past the fuzzies, past speaking
each night – calling at dawn, past conjoining
your life to his by palm and cell phone;

When the memory of you two together,
after it’s over, protects you from others
who would block out the sound of your skin

– the small of your back, even – aching
to be alone, pores breathing air at last, grateful
while the shadow of him fades;

Silence will be yours to find yourself again,
the one you loved so fiercely before –
to whom you must eventually be faithful,

the one who will not accept shiny stones and flowers –
the notebooks and vocabulary you collected, scraps
to prove you learnt something useful on the way.

 

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In case you’re wondering where I found this, I found this at World Literature Today.

TELEVISION: Camera Café Philippines – Where have all the good local sitcoms gone?

Don’t you ever miss those nights when you open the television and you get your daily dose of laughter from watching local sitcoms?  I do.  I miss most Coco Trinidad and Tessie Tomas in Abangan ang Susunod na Kabanata and The Gwapings (Jomari Yllana, Mark Anthony Fernandez and Eric Fructuoso) in Palibhasa Lalaki.  When you tune in to your local TV at nighttime, you’d probably catch a telenovela.  Makes me wonder if Pinoy viewers today prefer to purge misery, revenge and unrequited love than have a good laugh from a well-made sitcom.

Watching episodes of Camera Café  made me miss sitcoms of my childhood real bad.  Shows such as Home Along Da Riles, Buddy en Sol and Okay Ka Fairy Ko.  For those of you who are not familiar with Camera Café, it  is a very short sitcom (3 1/2 minutes each) set in an office where the characters converse in front of a coffee vending machine. It is franchised all over the world (just like PBB and Survivor) but it originated in France. It was directed by internationally-renowned Mark Meily and the script was spearheaded by award-winning playwrights Rody Vera and Liza Magtoto.

The Philippine version of Camera Café is a proof that a well-written sitcom can enjoy success in local TV.  We don’t need slapstick humor and dirty jokes to make viewers laugh. Watch some of these  hilarious episodes of Camera Café and see for yourself the brand of comedy that our local TV needs more of.  May the local TV bring back sitcoms, really good sitcoms in our weeknight TV viewing. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MOVIES: The Story of a Sign (Short Film)


 
 
We are blessed with this wonderful gift of eyesight but can we really see?

With the “everydayness” of life, we have become desensitized with the world around us.  Everyday, we get off our beds, drink our coffee, take a bath and go to work.  We work and then it’s lunchtime. After lunch, we work again and then it’s time to go home.  We sleep on the bus on our way home.  We buy dinner at the convenience store.  And then we go home and stare at the television or facebook until we fall asleep.

The next day, the cycle comes back.  We have become automatons moving much more like programmed robots than living humans.

This short film entitled “Historia de un letrero” or “The Story of a Sign” never fails to inspire me during moments like these when the everydayness of life is sinking into me.  I can’t even remember how I knew of it.  But it has always been in my memory bank for years.  I love the music.  It is from the soundtrack of the movie “Il Postino” which features the life and poetry of Pablo Neruda.  I love what I feel when I experience this short film.

Today is a beautiful day.  Stop for awhile and really look and really see. . . . .

BOOKS: The Republic – Happiness According to Plato

Reading Plato is like getting a hammer and pounding it on your own head.  But I gladly took the blows because I remember my philosophy prof saying with very serious face and a stare that cuts through you that Plato could teach something about how to live a happy life.  Weird.  Because I think that’s the only thing I remember from that class.  My professor saying that and my professor looking like that.

Anyway, I would like to share with you the things that I realized about happiness while I was reading Plato especifically Book IV of The Republic. Although I’m telling you, these are things you probably already know:

1.  Pursuit of happiness is different from pursuit of fleeting pleasures.  Happiness has nothing to do with instant gratification.

2.  We know what will make us happy and we do things to achieve it.  If given a choice between a plate of poop and a plate of cake, I will naturally choose the cake because I naturally know that eating poop will not make me happy. Oh no, it definitely won’t.

3. We don’t achieve the happiness that we pursue when we don’t let our reason take control.

4.  We don’t let our reason take control when we become slaves to our desires for money and fleeting pleasures money can buy.

5.  We don’t let our reason take control when we become slaves to self-aggrandizement.  Everybody in facebook knows that I have a luxury car and I can afford expensive clothes.  Everybody knows because everyday I post pictures of them on facebook.  I feel good posting them.  And then what?

6.  We let reason take control by examining our lives and our idea of what a “good life” is.

7.  We let reason take control by facing the real hard questions of life such as, “What is a meaningful life for me?” and “What is really important for me?”

8.  We let reason take control by examining our lives and asking the questions – “Am I progressing as a human?” “Are people progressing as humans because of what I am doing and what I am becoming?” As they say, if you are not growing, then you are dying.

9.  We free ourselves from the enslavement of fleeting pleasures and self-aggrandizement by experiencing THE BEAUTIFUL  in nature and in the arts. That is why experiencing a beautiful sunset and listening to beautiful music make us happy.

10.  We really need to stop believing in Coke.  It won’t open happiness for us.  We have to do it ourselves. :-)

You can download Plato’s The Republic from Books Should Be Free.

 

MUSIC VIDEO: Brand New Day by Tim Myers Ft. Lindsey Ray

This music video has just brightened up my day!  The dogs and other animals featured in the video are sooo cute!

And it is a nice reminder because some days we tend to forget:  that every single morning that we wake up and breathe and live is such a wonderful blessing.

Here’s the bridge part of the song:

Simple things
It’s what life is made of
Happiness
Is not that hard to find
I’m alive
And I’ll go on living
In this simple life

All together now, let’s sing:  Oh oh oh oh!  This is a brand new day. . . .  ♫ ♪ ♫♫ ♪

 

BOOKS: Archie Comics

When I was growing up, there was always an Archie Digest book in the house.  I think my older brother borrowed them from his classmates or bought them.  I actually grew up reading 2 comic books: one is Funny komiks, a very popular Tagalog komiks back in the 90′s.  And then there was Archie.  Lately, I have been slowly digging into Calvin and Hobbes and Peanuts.

Today though, I want to share with you the perks of having older siblings who bring home different kinds of things like Archie comics. . .

Among all the characters in Archie comics, I love Jughead the most.  He’s hilarious.  He’s the kind of person who butts into conversations and say something funny without trying hard to be funny.  I envy him that he can eat so much and still stay so thin.  And I like that he doesn’t care about what others think of him.  He just does what he does.

For those of you who miss Archie, Jughead and the gang, here are some of the strips I plucked out from the internet including 2 really old ones.  Let’s bring back the  joy of being young and carefree :-)

1. Jughead finallly cleans his room

 

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2.  Archie advised to take it slow

 

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3.  Archie Takes a School Test

 

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4.   Archie’s odometer party

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5. Archie Goes to the Park

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6.. Jughead Snacktime

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7.  Archie’s Surprise Date

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8.   Archie’s car needs wash

 

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9.  Archie rescues Betty

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10.  The “Oil” that Archie Uses

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